The power of saying NO!!!

JUST SAY NO!!!!

JUST SAY NO!!!!


Saying no is perhaps the most important productivity tool that exists. Saying no is an art. It is also perhaps the most difficult thing to do for most people. I used to dread the occasions where I knew I will have to say no and I used to prepare for such situations for days. Now, I almost look forward to saying no to people and I actually enjoy the process! Find out how the change happened.

1. You are doing everyone a favour by saying no.

Whenever you are saying NO to someone, remember that it is for their benefit! By saying no, you are

-Giving the person an opportunity to look for someone who can do the job better.

– Avoiding negative feelings about the person.

2. Visualize the alternative (to saying no) in vivid detail.

– You will feel bad and will curse yourself for accepting the task.

– You will do a bad job.

– You will hate the person for putting this on to you.
– The person will hate you for doing a bad job.

– You should not have said yes, if you were not going to do a good job, the person will tell you later.

3. Remember what happened the last time you said yes!

4. Use the situation as an opportunity to build a better relationship.

If you like the person and don’t want to burn your bridges then having to say no can actually be a great opportunity to improve your relationship with this person. This is very much possible, provided you take the extra effort to honestly explain to the person why you cannot do this and why you value the relationship and that you really believe that by doing a half-baked job you will be hurting the relationship.

5. Enjoy!

Sometimes, saying no is just pure joy! The joy gets magnified if you do not provide any reasons at all!

6. Go overboard explaining why you cannot.

The explaining might make the person feel better than if you had said yes!

7. Use the big–picture test.

Focus on the big picture. What are your ultimate goals and objectives? Is this task in sync with your goals? If not, just say no and rest assured that you have made the correct decision.

8. Use a bit of cunning if you need to (in this order).

a. Negotiate. If you can take this off my plate, then I can do that. Or if I can get resources for this, then I can do that.

b. Postpone. Let me think about it and get back to you on email.

c. Deflect. I cannot do this BUT I can help you with that.

d. Bluff. Carry around your dummy calendar (choc a bloc of course) and show it to the person!

e. Throw the ball back. Ask for help in deciding how you should fit in the new task on the list of priorities (especially if it is your boss).

f. Lower expectations. Point out that you might be able to do everything, but not to the usual high standards that are expected.

g. Googly or curve ball. Say yes, then call back or SMS in the next 10 minutes to say why you cannot do it. Why 10 minutes? Well because that is the average time required for homo sapiens to come up with a good excuse.

h. Scare them off if nothing works! It’s just that I have this crazy flu and I don’t want you to get it

9. If they get really pushy, switch gears and think of it as a game.

There is no way you can say yes NOW! Smile and tell them so.

10. And before we end, here are a few statements for you to practice!

I have another commitment.
I have no experience with that.
I know you will do a wonderful job yourself.
I am in the middle of several projects.
I am not comfortable with that.
I need to leave some free time for myself.
I would rather decline than do a mediocre job.
I am not taking on any new responsibilities.
I would rather help out with another task.
Let me hook you up with someone who can do it.
I am not the most qualified person for the job.
I do not enjoy that kind of work.
I do not have any more room in my calendar.
I hate to split my attention among projects.
I need to focus more on my personal life.
I need to focus on my career right now.
Some things have come up that need my attention.
This really is not my strong point.

REMEMBER!!!! It’s very easy to over-promise and then under-perform. Be realistic about what you can accomplish and don’t feel like you have to agree to your client’s every wish. If you can’t do it, you can’t do it and you’ll occasionally have to tell your clients the truth. Being overloaded, but still promising to meet their needs doesn’t bode well for you, and will only result in disappointed clients later. Also, though it’s hard to turn down new projects, you’ll have to do that from time to time if you’re already overloaded. If you take on more than you can handle, you’ll short-change current projects and disappoint new clients.

EXTRACTED FROM tickledbylife.com
Shalu Wasu is a creativity consultant and trainer based in Singapore apart from being guest faculty at select institutes.

As The Man Unlearns

This poem was written by an unknown monk which lived in the 11th century and its still relevant today.

monk

When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world.
I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.

When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.

Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.

As I quote John Maynard Keynes: “The difficulty lies, not in new ideas, but in escaping from the old ones, which ramify, for those brought up as most of have been, into the corners of our minds.”

Extracted from unlearning101

Happy Holidays :-)

The Clique

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On Cloudnine: Literally and Figuratively…..

They came

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.......and they made a gran exit

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A Gentleman’s Guide To Shoes

Incase you didnt know as a man your shoes can say a lot about you whether its fashion wise, professionally and personally. So, what do you want your shoes to say about you?

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Below is NEXT’s “Discerning Gentleman’s Guide to Shoes” gents its time to learn a thing or two about shoes.

NEXT - The Discerning Gentleman's Guide to Shoes
NEXT – The Discerning Gentleman’s Guide to Shoes

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WHAT HAPPENS BEHIND THE SCENES [from our Cloudnine Urbanwear archives]

The magic hands at work

Undeniable there is a lot of work we put towards the Photoshoots but i have to admit that its fun too.Here are a few unedited pics from our last Summer 2012 photoshoot.

Despite having people who make sure she looks 100s, Our 1st lady prefers her last touch…lol

Linda Mbuso taking the dog for a walk

Mmule and 2kza sharing a joke at the picnic set .

Mmule preparing for thee pose…lol

There is never a dull moment when these two are on set.

EY……ningazoba serious la…….

The fun continues…..

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20% off on all CARDIGANS Assorted

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Men and Ladies Yellow cardigan

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Ladies blue cardigan

Ladies red cardigan

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Zano ft. Pascal Morais – Thatha Kancane (Snippet)

Another offering by Zano

We proud to announce that our Cloudnine Urbanwear member Zano has something fresh for all the dreamerz and beliverz outchea .This is a snippet of Zano‘s new collaborative single with Amsterdam’s super producer, Pascal Morais. The song was recorded in Amsterdam while Zano was on a European Tour for 4 months. The final product came out so well that Zano decided to release it as his first single. The full Thatha Kancane EP will be released in November with remixes from some of House music’s finest producers. Full album dropping early 2013.

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A Tweet Turned Into $1 Million

I have to admit this story got me thinking about the way i use or should i say abuse my twitter account. Here’s a story about how two entrepreneurs turned a tweet from Sir Richard Branson into start up money .

When opportunity tweets, tweet back. That may be the key lesson from young brother and sister entrepreneurs Scott and Stacey Ferreira, who recently landed nearly $1 million from Sir Richard Branson and Colorado venture investor Jerry Murdock for their startup — when they weren’t even looking for funding.

Stacey, 19, and Scott, 21, started working on their business, MySocialCloud.com, last summer. The web application, which is currently in beta, aims to be the go-to place for people to manage their internet activity and securely store usernames and passwords, among other things.
Scott, who left the University of Southern California as a sophomore to pursue the venture, says he got the idea when his computer crashed and he lost a spreadsheet containing all his usernames and passwords. The now CEO decided to form the business after finding other password-storage sites lacking in one way or another.

For her part, Stacey recently finished her freshman year at New York University and is taking a leave of absence from school. She worked on the business in Los Angeles last summer with her brother and the company’s chief technology officer, Shiv Prakash.

MySocialCloud founders Scott and Stacey Ferreira responded to a tweet from Richard Branson to meet the billionaire in Miami. Two months later, he became one of the company’s investors.
“I was taking a break from working and I decided to check my Twitter,” says Stacey, adding that she didn’t regularly check her account. When she logged on, she saw a tweet from Virgin Group founder Richard Branson, who was offering a chance for people to fly to Miami and meet him for cocktails if they would donate $2,000 to his charity, Free the Children.

The Ferreiras, who are from Scottsdale, Ariz., applied right away. Stacey e-mailed Virgin at the address provided on the tweet, saying she and Scott (who was 20 at the time) weren’t old enough to drink cocktails but would love to come to Miami and meet Branson, once a teen entrepreneur himself. After learning they were able to go, the pair secured a $4,000 loan from their parents.

Just two days after receiving Branson’s tweet, Stacey and Scott were in Miami. There, they didn’t sip cocktails but they did attend two parties at which Sir Richard himself was present. The siblings, says Stacey, were excited but not nervous as they met Branson at the first party at the Versace mansion.
“He just walked in the room, and we just started talking. I didn’t have time to think about being nervous,” she says.
The siblings were among 18 people telling Branson what they were working on or about their life passions. “We gave him a little background on where we were from and what our service provided,” Stacey says.
After getting Branson’s contact info, the pair returned to California and kept in touch with the billionaire. They also chatted several times over the phone with Murdock, a co-founder of Insight Venture Partners, a venture capital firm in New York. Murdock flew to L.A. in August to visit the company’s office and asked the Ferreiras many questions about themselves, the business and their vision. The next day, Murdock announced that he and Branson would invest in MySocialCloud.com.
“It helped propel our business forward quite extensively,” says Scott who plans to use the investment mostly to support the nine people on his team.

MySocialCloud founders Scott and Stacey Ferreira responded to a tweet from Richard Branson to meet the billionaire in Miami. Two months later, he became one of the company's investors.

MySocialCloud founders Scott and Stacey Ferreira responded to a tweet from Richard Branson to meet the billionaire in Miami. Two months later, he became one of the company’s investors.

Stacey is still in awe of it all — giving special deference to the amount of stars that needed to align to make the deal happen and, as she puts it, the “amazing” way social media can change someone’s life. “If I hadn’t logged on Twitter and I hadn’t seen that tweet coming through my feed,” she says, “we wouldn’t be where we are today.”

Scott believes that it helped that the company already had a functioning prototype in place. They were able to send links to Branson and to show the business to Murdock when he visited.
In March, the young company received another investment for an undisclosed amount from Photobucket co-founder Alex Welch, whom Scott calls a good mentor.
“I guess the biggest thing that I would advise [fellow young entrepreneurs] is take every opportunity,” says Stacey.

This article was extracted from NERDATTHECOOLTABLE.COM